Have you been heart-broken? Or rather left someone you love? One of the major fears of being in a relationship is that of being left by someone you love. Then, the major task comes in when you’d love to get your ex-partner back. Some people are lucky enough to get them back, while to others it just doesn’t work for them – probably because they’re not doing things the right way.
As a lady, you could be hesitant on making the first move to get him back; maybe because you’re not sure whether he’d accept you back, or if he really wants to replenish the love you had. Either way, you still have that urge to get your man back. Well, there are certain ways that would perfectly work well to bring your relationship back to its previous state – that of happiness and love.
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Want to Know How to Get Him Back ?
here are six steps to help you get your ex-lover back in a safe, careful and easy manner and save your relationship. Let’s go!
1. Make yourself better.
Regardless of who between you led to the breakup, you should first focus on improving yourself. Meditate on your inner self and identify one or two of your characters that he doesn’t like, and then work on improving it. Then try to let him see the change when you get to interact with him; don’t try too hard to make him notice the change, just make it appear natural so that he’ll be sure of a permanent change in you.
As much as you focus on inner self, the outward appearance still matters to him; change your appearance – probably by buying new clothes, going for facial therapy and so on. Just change your entire look; this is the first thing that will draw his attention to you.
2. Get over everything that resulted to the breakup.
Holding on past issues will not work for you. Even if it is clear that he is the source of your breakup, don’t start blaming him for everything; forgive and forget what happened between you. You cannot get the confidence to approach him if you’re still guilty of your deeds, or if you still hold on his past mistakes. It is the high time to let go off all the blames; either for yourself or for him, then make the move to start something new together – which is free of blame.
You don’t have to wait for him to ask for forgiveness so that you forgive him, let everything work naturally from your heart. The first meeting with him should send a message of forgiveness to him. He will reciprocate the same to you; forgive and forget as well.
3. Don’t act desperate.
The fact that you need him back to your life doesn’t mean you should start calling him, asking him out, or popping in to his house. This will definitely send a message of desperation to him. A man places higher value on something he has worked for. Give him time to miss you and raise his anxiety on your well-being. This doesn’t give you room to rush in to other men who come your way, as an act of desperation for love. Being composed and also giving yourself time to meditate will attract his attention. Just find something useful to do; it could be working and improving on what you’re best at, or find something constructive that replaces the time you spent together. This is the time you should make up with your friends, and learn new things from them. This will arouse his curiosity and make him guilty for losing you.
4. Listen to him.
When the time comes for both of you to talk, just listen to everything he tells you. Since you’ve decided to make things work, don’t ignore him, he will feel inferior and this might push him away. He will probably tell you the reasons for your breakup, his displeasure in your previous relationship, and what he expects from you. This will act as a base for your new relationship. When you hear about your shortcomings, play cool and apologize, then promise him that you’ve changed and that you’ll work in correcting your mistakes.
Also, don’t reciprocate by trying to prove that he is responsible for all that happened. You should understand that you also played part in propelling the breakup.
5. Take your time before getting back into the relationship.
Don’t be too quick to get back in to the relationship. Even when all the signals show that he wants you back as well, take it slow. It is hard to abruptly adopt a change and things just get flowing smoothly. You could be fully dedicated to get seriously back to the relationship, but he might not be. So, don’t make it too easy to pick up from where you previously left; avoid sex with him until you’ve fully won him back. Try to draw him closer by first showing him how willing and dedicated you are to change, then he will slowly change to fit in.
6. Hold on and be optimistic.
When you finally become certain that he is also willing to get back to the relationship, don’t act as if you doubt whether the relationship will work. Act in a more confident and loving manner that will also confirm to him that things are now better than before. Make it clear about your intentions to him, so that he will also become clear on his intentions as well. If he is serious about getting back to a relationship with you, he will reciprocate his love for you. Then finally you will have your man back in a better and healthier relationships than before.
In conclusion, getting your man back requires a process of self-evaluation, courage, change, forgiveness, learning your partner, and being optimistic. Take your time and work towards winning him back using these six steps. Remember to act natural and let everything flow smoothly from you. However, there are conditions that really make it hard for a second chance; just be keen to ensure that you’re getting back to a person you really love and you’re willing to engage with again. If you are ready to try your luck again, follow the above relationship advices, you’ll get a more fulfilling relationship both to you and your partner.
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